Tag: pansexuality

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My dear lgbt+ children, 

Asexual and pansexual look like opposites (attracted to no gender vs. attracted to every gender), so it may seem as if it’s very easy to tell that you’re one and not the other – but in reality, there are actually a lot of kids who are not sure which of those two fits better. 

If that’s your situation, please know that you’re not alone and you’re certainly not silly. There’s a very easy explanation why it’s so easily to be confused: 

It actually is not that different – it’s pretty similar. Both asexual and pansexual people feel the same about every gender. 

A lesbian girl, for example, feels very different about girls compared to how she feels about boys. But if you are asexual or pansexual, you have no such comparison. You can’t compare how you feel about girls to how you feel about boys: You feel a equal level of attraction to both. 

Your confusion is not stupidity: It really can be hard to know if you’re attracted to all or attracted to none! 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

And then you have to figure out with each individual if it is friendship or romance. Fuck if I can tell the difference.

This is complicated. If you want to throw a queer label on it and quit stressing yourself out, that is fine 🙂

Sometimes all you know for sure us you aren’t straight.

I am asexual aromantic pansexual. Why? How? 

Because asexual and aromantic people can still have sexual and romantic relationships, and therefore we can also have sexual and romantic preferences.

And mine is: any gender.

However, please note: asexual people can have preferences and additional orientations. You can be lesbian and asexual, for example. That is up to you to know and define. Do not think that being asexual/aromantic means you have to be attracted to all genders equally.