ladylexile:

ain-t-bovvered:

anxiety-depression-recovery:

selfcarepropaganda:

dan-mcneely:

going thru phone pics and found this thing that was tacked up next to the toaster at my old job, if anyone needs some light toast eating reading material

Would anyone be kind enough to transcribe this or link to a text version?

Everything Is AWFUL and I’m Not Okay: Questions to Ask Before Giving Up on Yourself


Are you hydrated? 

If not, have a glass of water. Dehydration can mimic
or increase feelings associated with anxiety and a
well hydrated brain functions optimally. Avoid
excess caffeine. 

Have you eaten in the past three hours? 

Don’t be a victim of hanger! Get some food–something
with protein, not just simple carbs or
high-fat. Nuts, hummus, and veggies are great
options to feed your studying brain. Keep healthy
snacks within reach to avoid mindlessly chowing
down on sweets. 

Have you stretched your legs in the past day? 

If not, do so right now. If you don’t have the energy
or time for a run or a trip to the gym, just walk
around the block or building. Even minimal exercise
preps the mind for learning so that you can focus
better and recall things easier, plus it’s good to get a
change of scenery. 

Have you said something nice to someone in the
past day?
 

Do so, whether online or in person. Make it
genuine! We bet your study partner would
appreciate a compliment. 

Have you moved your body to music in the past
day?

If not, jog for the length of a song at your favorite
tempo, or just dance around your bedroom for the
length of an upbeat song (singing along is a bonus) 

Have you cuddled a living being in the past two
days?

If not, do so. Don’t be afraid to ask for hugs from
friends of friends’ pets. Most of them will enjoy the
cuddles too; you’re not imposing. 

Have you started or changed any medications in the
past couple of weeks, including skipped doses or a
change in generic prescription brand?
 

That may be screwing with your head. Give things a
few days, then talk to your doctor if it doesn’t settle
down. 

If daytime: are you dressed? 

If no, put on clean clothes that aren’t PJs. Give
yourself permission to wear something special,
whether it’s a funny t-shirt or a pretty dress. 

If nighttime: are you sleepy and fatigued but
resisting going to sleep? 

Put on PJs, make yourself cozy in bed with a teddy
bear and the sound of falling rain, and close your
eyes for fifteen minutes while focusing on breathing
deeper with every breath- no electronic screens
allowed! Adequate sleep is a necessity for stress
management. 

Do you feel ineffective? 

Pause right now and get something small completed,
whether it’s responding to an email, loading the
dishwasher, or tidying up your room. Good job!

Do you feel unattractive? 

Take a darn selfie. Your friends will remind you how
great you look. You are always insta-worthy. 

Do you feel paralyzed by indecision?

Give yourself ten minutes to sit back and figure out a
game plan for the day. If a particular decision or
problem is still being a roadblock, simply set it aside
for now, and pick something else that seems doable.
Right now, the important part is to break through
that stasis, even if it means doing something trivial. 

Have you over-exerted yourself lately–physically,
emotionally, socially, or intellectually?
 

That can take a toll that lingers for days. Give
yourself a break in that area, whether it’s physical
rest, taking some time alone, or relaxing with some
silly entertainment for a little. Time spent refreshing
yourself is never time “wasted!” 

Have you waited a week? 

Sometimes or perception of life is skewed, and we
can’t even tell that we’re not thinking clearly, and
there’s no obvious external cause. It happens. Keep
yourself going for a full week, whatever it takes, and
see if you still feel the same way then. 

You’ve made it this far; and you will make it through. You are stronger than you think.

Because someone might need this today

Also for teachers in the long dark of November

Intent

amysubmits:

cynicaldom:

When communicating to someone about a sensitive topic, I’ve found it’s helpful to explain why you want to talk about it. If you say you’re worried, or hurt, or just needed to get it off your chest, it can help the other person not get defensive and then more completely process what you’re saying. 

Many relationships die by a thousand little cuts. Little problems that on their surface are penny-ante. But the real offense, the hurt, is unresolved. And the little hurts pile up and the resentment builds until things fall apart.

It’s very easy for people to read a bad intent when you’re communicating a problem. Sometimes it’s a natural defense mechanism, if you think someone is just being shitty then you don’t have to really hear them. But it can just as often simply be an incorrect assumption. Communicating your intent can stop that from happening and help the conversation come to a more fruitful resolution.

But if you break it down, your intent is not just a lubricant to keep the conversation productive. Your intent is the point of the conversation. More often than not the problems we have with each other are not the real issue, it’s how those problems make us feel. When you communicate your intent, you’re fully explaining the issue that needs to be resolved.

“I’ve been missing you, could you skip your TV show tonight so we can play a video game together?” works better than “You don’t give me enough attention.” or “you watch too much TV.”

Or “I suspect it’s just my anxiety, but I’m worried that you’re angry with me because you’ve been kind of quiet.” is better than just “Why are you so distant?”

For years I worried that we couldn’t discuss problems because it would cause a fight. That was how the world I lived in as a kid worked. Having a partner who is open to hearing you is huge, but choice of wording helps even when you have a partner who wants to hear you. 

MBTI types as clowns

mbtiandotherstuff:

ENFJ: Street performer clown who started off juggling balls but eventually got tired of that and started juggling live alligators instead

ENFP: Pet clown from that meme last year

ENTJ: Chaotic neutral harlequin who keeps leaving the castle to beg for money from others even though they’re financially stable

ENTP: Clown who just wanders around and does weird things in the background but no one ever questions it

ESFJ: Pastel clown who wears weird shoes with mismatched socks and eats 5 bags of cotton candy per day

ESFP: Clown who is supposed to be a mascot for a company but got bored of advertising and just started wandering around the city and taking photos with strangers

ESTJ: Cult leader in a clown mask whose weapons look like pies, hats, etc

ESTP: Rodeo clown who desperately wants to ride the horses and keeps breaking rules in order to do so

INFJ: Mime who never breaks character to the point where you wonder if they’re actually mute and hallucinating

INFP: Pierrot-type clown who keeps writing weird poetry and passing it off as silly clown stuff when really it’s a coping mechanism for being sad

INTJ: Medieval jester who stands in the corner making rude sarcastic comments

INTP: Clown who lives in an abandoned factory and only wears grey. Never says anything or gets close to anyone but is always lurking

ISFJ: Small but knowing clown

ISFP: Beloved but obscure artist clown. Enjoys painting the city walls and trash cans tacky neons and occasionally shows up next to the city mayor in mysterious photos

ISTJ: Clown who used to be popular back in the day but has no business anymore due to how clowns are perceived in modern times. Mostly just sits on a rocking chair humming circus music to themslef

ISTP: Anonymous political activist who dresses like a clown to hide their real identity. Throws pie at people and expresses ideals through edgy clown puns